The True Bully

Bullying. It seems rampant in our world. In fact, compared to when I was a kid, I see way more stuff about bullying nowadays. Part of the reason for that could be technology and social media as well. But what has gotten my mind going lately is the fact that Christians are being called "bullies". Naturally, we get called all sorts of things; bigots, hypocrites, judgmental, bible-thumpers, crazy, delusional, and brain-washed. However, bully is a new one coming around that I am seeing more and more often. So, with that said, let's dig in a little and see exactly what bullies are and whether or not this could apply to Christians or not.

Bully: noun; a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

Bully: verb; use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

Courtesy of Google definitions

With these definitions given, it seems to me that both sides of the argument can get to this point. I see Facebook posts all the time where insults are hurled from Christian and non-Christian alike...sometimes even between Christians themselves. Does this mean they are a bully? Not necessarily. It means they're being mean, yes. But not necessarily a bully. No matter how you shake it down, it seems that the ones crying bully from the non-Christian side are the ones who are bullying. They're trying to exert their influence and strength in order to intimidate Christians to simply lay down, roll over and play dead so the opposing side can have what they want. They don't want to hear the Truth because they might just be convicted of their sin. Trust me, there are times I hate hearing about what I'm doing wrong. So, if that's the case, I know it probably is with them too.

But not so fast Christians. We've had the luxury of having the majority of our country composed of Christians. We've had the numbers and the power. We are now losing that power and influence and are upset about not getting our way in the government anymore. Do I lament over the debauchery in our country? YES. Do I believe we must have our laws be forced upon others? NO. That's bullying. Besides, when did Jesus ever say that we had to have our way in the government in order for Christianity to thrive? He didn't. As a matter of fact, most times it's when Christianity is persecuted severely in a country that we thrive and grow the best. As a pastor, I've already been seeing Christians being weeded out the past 5-7 years of those who are serious about their faith and those who are simply fence riders, 'cultural Christians', or even going just because of tradition. This will continue to be the case and I must say, at least we know who we need to love on and preach the Gospel to.

Sometimes weeding and pruning the weaker plants and fruit is necessary so the stronger fruit can get better and stronger. The problem is, in the process, we need to be very sure that we are not stooping to bullying in order to get our way. We need to make sure that we are not being mean. Sure, people will say we are judgmental for preaching on sin. However, if we do so lovingly and gently, we can be sure our conscience is clear so as to be sure we aren't the reason they stumble.

I pray this blog will help you to reflect on your words and actions in the realm of bullying. Not just in a Christian sense, but in our every day lives too; work, school, community involvement, etc. Don't use the word bully unless that's exactly what's going on. If we cry wolf one too many times, sooner or later, no one will listen. No one likes a bully and being one as a Christian can seriously hinder the spread of the Gospel message. May God bless you in your walk with Him.